Picture perfect is not real.
We know it intrinsically but we’ve been socialized to think that in order for something to be successful, it must be big and grand – and come together quickly. We’ve been taught that the “little things” are boring. We are so restless about our expectations, we have to search the internet to keep validating our correctness. One of the reasons TKG has a no-branded clothing tradition is to support the idea that there are many ways to be seen, for who you are and not what you wear – loving who you are is one of the first steps in being able to find joy every day. This article from Mindful.org is a friendly reminder to be gentle with yourself:
3 Simple Ways to Cultivate Joy Every Day
“Joy can be like that—small, unassuming, disarming. It’s hiding in a cherry, a song note, or a pair of comfortable shoes. Often, we have to coax these small moments of joy into our awareness. We have to let our guard down and allow them rub up against us like a purring cat.
Of course, our attention is often otherwise occupied—tugged toward irritation when we hear the grating whir of a leaf blower, or when we feel sadness after learning a friend is ill, or anxiety when someone we love has lost their job. And there are the larger forces that pull our attention—oppression, climate devastation, deep uncertainty about the future. Much of mindfulness practice is about learning to relate to these sharp-elbowed moments with equanimity.”
This friend helped us be still and observe for over a minute! This is just a little part of that study.